Monthly Archives: April 2015

“Dance,” said the Sheep Man. “Yougottadance. Aslongasthemusicplays. Yougotta dance. Don’teventhinkwhy. Starttothink, yourfeetstop. Yourfeetstop, wegetstuck. Wegetstuck, you’restuck. Sodon’tpayanymind, nomatterhowdumb. Yougottakeepthestep. Yougottalimberup. Yougottaloosenwhatyoubolteddown. Yougottauseallyougot. Weknowyou’re tired, tiredandscared. Happenstoeveryone, okay? Justdon’tletyourfeetstop.”
Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance

How to be a good member of a group? Easy: genuinly take care of the others and share the tasks and responsibilities.

Being a part of a group can be an exciting experience. Usually joining to one that has already been established you will meet with set roles and tasks – however, there is always the possibility that the newcomer will cause some sort of changes in the group dynamic – reform the tasks and maybe the leadership settings as well.

But it can be even more interesting to become a part of an entirely new group. New members at the company with unknown potential can cause some surprizes, not just because of their virginity at the company (structures, behaviour, expectations or hierarchy), but the previous expriences that shaped their personality. By mentioning that I mean family background, international relations, employment history or any other observations made by the new members can shape their identity as well as the group’s.

Creating a new group, taking part in it is a very exciting process and at the end if this group has a positive dynamic then some great results can be expected. Let’s hope so. 😉

The expression was first created by Kurt Lewin during the 1930s. He is also known as the “founder of social psychology” – you can read it on Change Mangement Coach. Why do I write about this? Because during our daily life we are taking part in different groups. They can be created by us, because we love to participate in dancing, cooking, hitchhiking or whatever groups.

On the other hand there are some other groups, created by our workplace because of various reasons like there is a project that needs to be done or a function that requires a certain group to work together(HR, marketing, etc.). You can read more about this topic by clicking here, or here:

Ethan Hale on wrote about it as follows. “At MIT’s Human Dynamics laboratory, they identified the group dynamics that high-performing teams share. They include:

  •  Everyone on the team both talks and listens. No one dominates the conversation.
  •  The interactions are energetic with a lot of face-to-face communication.
  •  People connect with one another directly – not just with or through the team leader.
  •  Side conversations are carried on within the team.
  •  People from time to time go outside the group and bring relevant outside information back in.
  •  Individual contributions/talents are less important than successful communication patterns”

So, if the group is not working properly, then some of the most important factors might be missing.

Here you will find the shortlink for Change Management Coach:


See the other side

It’s not a secret that I was on a job seek for a while. No, there is no whining, no accusations, because that’s not what it is all about. More likely finding one’s own way.

But what would a recruiter think about our CV if we were so unlucky to accept jobs – despite of our gut feeling – that just turn out not being the best fit for us? For example lots of them would simply trash our CV.

It is as if we would be some unpredictable, unreliable problems in the matrix. Do you think it can be true? No, not really. There was a very good article about this on LinkedIn and Forbes, you can read it here.  Or here:

The first sentence is absolutely lovely, “there’s a saying that employees don’t leave companies, they leave managers – and today they are leaving more often than ever.”

Louis Efron reveals some reasons to make the situation more understandable, let’s see them in a nutshell:

  1. No vision – how can you build a successful future without a vision? Clearly profit numbers alone are not too sexy.
  2. No Connection To The Big Picture – no employment engagement
  3. No empathy – don’t mime it, it’s not worth it
  4. No (effective) motivation – Fear of constant criticism, redundancy, or the frequent fluctuation of colleagues aren’t the best ways to motivate, etc.
  5. No future – do you have a career plan? Will the company support you to move either vertically or horizontally?
  6. No fun – that’s quite straightforward. We spend at least 8 hours in the office and our time is more precious now than ever before.

To make the employment a long lasting adventure is both parties responsibilities – nor the employer, neither the employee can do it alone.

However it’s good to know that there are companies that think about these questions differently – at least this is my experience.